I hope you are well well.
As we approach the third month of the year already, I thought I would share some thoughts and experiences on Random Acts of Kindness, which to me - is one of the most important acts we can carry out in our daily lives.
So I am going to give a quick run-down of how kind acts can come back twice-fold and without expecting it, that we should just jump in and offer to help where needed when it is least expected. In the last quarter of 2014, there were many people in Jamaica who came down with a mosquito borne virus, called "Chikungunya virus" or "chik V" shortened. It is a debilitating virus that literally attacks the joints in the body, and you feel as if you are 100 years old to say the least. You can barely walk, get out of bed or move around when the joints are swollen and in pain. I know this for a fact, as I came down with the same virus in November. For almost three months and more, I have been suffering from this and it has taken about that amount of time to finally get back to feeling like the "old me" again, and almost back to a place of normal. Now I can continue on and on about negative things, but I choose to stop right here and talk about the positive, and to say that if it were not for a very few people, I would have been very lost going through this. A few lovely peeps (whether family or friends) who would check in on me daily by text, phone call or just to say hi. The lovely lady who offered me fabulous Italian pasta's for lunch and dinner (I could not say yes very often as I was not exercising!) - and the one person who listened to my painful stories each day - I say thank you, you know who you are! Of course my hubby was my main support, but I am referring here to random peeps.
The reason for this back story is because there was a time about a month before when a friend came down with the same virus, and I helped her wherever I could taking into consideration, that she lived alone. Not for one second was I helping her to expect back the same help one day in any shape or form! However, one month later when I came down with the same virus, this lovely lady came to my rescue like a nurturing mother, offering meals, calls and support constantly - I will never forget it as long as I live.
I absolutely love this quote from Princess Diana - it is so true! Source here.
Back to the general day to day random acts of kindness...we live in a time that busy thoughts, goals, errands, etc. can take us away from thinking about anything else. That is what can sometimes cause the feeling of not wanting to help someone come to fruition. It can happen to any of us at any given time. I can only advise: do not give into the path of not helping, just think when you help someone you are giving joy. You have no idea why this situation was put in your path, but the best course is to do what you can and with the best of intentions, without negativity...trust me you will be happy at the end of the day for so many reasons.
There have been countless times in my life that I can look back on (just up to yesterday) where I feel as what I put out there has come back to me twice-fold. It could be small, but you know it's karma. One simple random act of kindness every single day can change the world -- negative, to positive. Sad to happy. It all balances out.
Last Summer when I was frequenting Starbucks when in Florida, I had heard about people who pay for the person directly behind you in the line and while standing in a line one day I decided that sometimes when I was in Starbucks I would do this...so I started to pay for the person behind me at random times. Later in the Summer I received an email that I had given Starby's so much business that I had earned enough points to apply for a gold card and get special treats and refills each day...I was floored and blown away, as I had not had any intention of paying more to get more, I did not even know about the Offer they were putting out there at the time. So now everytime I am away and at Starbucks, I am entitled to something free. Wow.
It doesn't have to be big, it doesn't have to be life-changing but do remember that everyone is going through "something" - they may give you a happy, brave face each day and internally they are unhappy. If you know you can cheer them up, or help out when they need a favor, do it, trust me it works in a way that can only bring back goodness. It could be that one comment on Facebook complementing someone on their new hairstyle, wishing them a happy birthday, or simply liking a post that could make that person's day.
2015 means so much to me, but there are two important things I vowed to myself for this year: spiritual growth and continuing to build my fitness and health. No one is perfect, and no one will ever be...and we cannot expect perfection from each other - but we can look to better ourselves and grow. Taking on new ventures, passions, goals, dreams, charities...it only helps us to become stronger and happier each day.
The constant critiquing of others, including friends only harps your own growth. Negative thoughts does no good for anyone. Selfishness cannot get us anywhere either.
The circle of kindness and happiness should flow out and affect everyone we meet daily...I know I am trying my best to feel uplifted, renewed and happy no matter what life throws at me. In my darkest times, I have turned to my faith - and that has helped me 100%, but I also look at what I can celebrate. So I had 'chick v' for awhile and I could not exercise, or walk properly, but there are people out there who will never walk, never exercise and are happy. My plight was nothing compared to people who have terminal disease. My plight also helped me to see new opportunities and where I can grow and be better, it gave me time to focus and think about what I really want.
My goal is to continue on this course of happiness and kindness as much as I can.
I want to thank those people who have helped me in their day to day acts of kindness and say to you, it is going to be two fold coming back to you, as you have been amazing, supportive and fabulous.
One act of random kindness per day - let's do it!